We would like to have an intimate Jamaican destination wedding. With my grown son and his girlfriend as witnesses. We are planning to send announcements rather than invitations. My question is....is it acceptable to include a registery site with the announcements to help pay for the wedding and activities while we are there? My husband to be has been married before and this is my first. I hope you can help me with this!

And Jodi's answer:

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  It sounds like you have planned an intimate and romantic trip.  Upon your return, by all means do send out wedding announcements to your friends and family as I am sure they will want to wish you well.  Unlike guests who are invited to a wedding who traditionally give a gift, recipients of a wedding announcement need only send a congratulations card. 

Wedding announcements and wedding invitations should never include any registry information.  The only exception is when a wedding website address is included for guests to find directions and travel information...and if they happen to surf around and find the registry information.  Think of it as guests "pulling" the registry, versus you "pushing" it to them.

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